Our mindful house in Brockley
I knew Karim from a distance for a while before knowing him personally. He was a steadfast, ever-present facilitator at Wake Up London when I started going, which was about 2014. His lightness and sense of humour made me, and I'm sure many others there, feel at ease. Although I love meditation, in a sense sitting in silence for 2 hours is not the most fun thing you could do - but Karim made it fun to be there. Gradually we got to know each other a bit better, and a few years later when he posted on his fb page that he wanted to start a mindful house share in London, I instantly jumped at the chance. Between me first messaging Karim and moving in together, it must have taken a good year. Interested people showed up, but would later drop out - this happened several times. But Karim and I-especially Karim-stayed firm in the belief that this is how we would like to live. There were times when I wondered, “am I just some kind of eccentric? Is this a really out there aspiration and that’s why no one is showing up?”. Eventually someone-our friend Raman-who was properly interested joined us and the next task was to find a house. Again, Karim was the driving force behind this, and showed the ability to combine spiritual awareness and practical real world intelligence/street smarts. We went through a tonne of houses until finding one rented for incredibly cheap in Brockley. Suddenly, two other lovely people-Sam & Kasia-show up and were interested...against the odds after a few disappointments, we have a mindful community. So how do we actually do this? Again we looked to Karim for advice. He had a lot of ideas: having a kind of house ‘constitution’ that we all signed up to, with agreements about things like meeting once a week, eating together, buying groceries together from ethical food producers and meditating together. I remember describing it to my then girlfriend (now wife) and she thought it was a bit much. And I could see how it might seem that way from the outside. But there was something so incredibly powerful about us being there for each other intentionally, cooking for each other, looking out for each other, sharing our sadnesses and joys with each other. I had to leave after a few months to move to the USA to be with my girlfriend. I remember being in tears on the morning of my departure, leaving behind one of the most profound, beautiful experiences of my life, and the love for the people in our house. At the time, I was working as a therapist in the NHS, and I remember sharing with Karim that the feedback I had received in that particular role was miles above and beyond anything I had received previously. For the first time, clients of mine were going out of their way to email the service after our therapy to say what a positive experience they had had. The common element to their feedback was that I “truly listened”. As far as I was concerned, I was working no differently from how I ever had. But I know that the loving community I was living in, spearheaded by Karim, had helped me, at that point anyway, to be a more thoughtful, caring and present person. It set a benchmark in my life that I will always try to live up to. I can’t believe that Karim has gone, but I know that this experience with him will continue in me forever. With so much gratitude for Karim, Brendan
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Brendan
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10 February 2025